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man, i hope it was one of my super funny texts. heh

 well man, it's totally my opinion but i believe that when you have dreams like that your mum's visiting you. i guess i think that 'coz my mum would have visits from her mum in her dreams, and that's what she'd believe. either way though, when i come over i feel your mum there. i still can't believe what's happened, and it doesn't even feel real to me. i know you miss her and it's awesome that you had a dream about her. i know she set the dream up like when you guys would hang out because she knew that made you happy.

i dunno, that's just what i believe. i miss her too, dude. love, z.

I too have few dreams about my father (who passed away in '02). Unfortunately, the ones that I do have are completely obscure and meaningless.

I dunno man, the way I see it -- dreams like those, are special in their ability to show you that their memory is definitely alive and well; and it really does feel like you're back together again and brings you a bit stranger form of joy.

At least from my experience, it took a tragedy to realize how much I have to appreciate and how much I've been taking for granted. I know it's about to sound sappy, but I have a wonderful family and wonderful friends who it pains me to see only occasionally. When things are running [relatively] smoothly, it's easy to overlook these things, or at least take them for granted.

It's one thing to lose a friend, to lose a distant relative, and to lose a parent or a sibling. It's hard talking about certain things to people who haven't experienced it first hand; so I know how tough that is.

Certain things just come to light when you go through something like that; you actually mature in a way and you tend to get a little more paranoid (it's true). But overall it's a necessary "growing pain".... well, in my opinion at least.

Sounds like your mom was reaching out.  Especially with the phone thing, like she wanted you to take a few to think about the dream before getting back to normal, routine stuff.  And after we've lost someone, we still need to feel/remember their presence every once in a while.

I know for sure that my mom was there in this dream. I never have intense ones like the one I had. It was very clear like it was real and I remember colors and things. I was so happy in the dream, it was cool.

I definatly know what you mean Tim. I know exactly what is important and what is not in life now. Not just losing my mom but watching her struggle with her mortality for so long. Im sure it was the same way with your dad. Family, friends and every moment of life should be appreciated. It is growing up and a right of passage in a big way. So weird.

The phone thing freaked me out. Especially after the intensity of the dream. A little while after my mom died another weird thing happened to me. One minute I was sitting on my couch in my TV room and then I dont remember anything but I woke up in my living room sleeping on the couch and at some point I picked up my skunk because she was sleeping with me. When I opened my eyes I was looking at my moms urn on the mantle. It was so strange.

Thanks for your replys and kind words guys. I miss my mom so much and I will never get over losing her. She was so cool and one of my best friends.

i can't imagine ever getting over it. having a dream like that must be really bittersweet and surreal.

I totally think she was reaching out to you. I know a lot of people don't believe in that kind of stuff, but I do. I have never lost anyone close to me, but I have had similar incidents with beloved pets that have passed. I think it is them comforting us as we struggle through this plane.

*hugs*